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My brother is constantly bugging me, how do I get him to stop?
Hmmmm…. great question! I remember having the exact same problem when I was 14! My brother and all his friends would gang up on me and tease me. I remember feeling very powerless to make him stop. Looking back now I have a few suggestions – see if any of these would work for you:
-Tell him! When you both are in a good mood and getting along (if possible) tell him how you really feel “hey man I don’t know if you know how much it really bugs me that you make fun of me – it makes me feel like crap! I want to have a brother I can get along with… Can you lay off a little?” (P.S. Timing is everything! Talk to him when you think he’d receive what you are saying)
-Write it out! Sometimes writing it in an email or leaving a letter by his bed could get his attention and help him see how much it really annoys you
-Throw him off! Go out of your way to do something extraordinarily nice for him (make breakfast, offer to help with his chores, compliment him) and when he looks at you funny say, ‘I just want to have a good relationship with you – your my brother!) Maybe this will break the pattern… and the more you repeat the kindness the more likely he is to have a hard time being mean to you. This choice will show that you are a person of character – blessing those who curse you.
-Ignore him… sometimes brothers (or sisters) get a ‘pay off’ from feeling mean and more powerful. Make sure you are not irritating them or egging them on with a bad attitude to provoke them, but if it’s just “their issue”, sometimes it’s best just to ignore them, walk away – try not to react as much as possible. Then they don’t get the “fun” out of it that they are looking for in your reaction and hopefully they’ll back off and get bored with it.
-Parents? No one wants to be a tattle tale, but sometimes asking for a parent’s subtle help can give you strength. Let your parents know what’s going on and when it usually happens… maybe they can strategically plan to be around to ‘catch’ them in the act and then they can talk it out with him and he’ll never know you said a word….
Hope it helps!
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